Humans often seek outside themselves the things that they are missing within. No one has been the product of perfect parenting, and all have things that are missing or are incomplete within. At some point in human maturational development a needed lesson is to learn to seek within.
Someone who was not nurtured as a child often looks to other adult relationships to fill these unmet needs of childhood. When we, as human beings, seek outside of self for this we ultimately abandon ourselves. This is when the divine conundrum comes into play. The Leela, the divine play in life, holds these beings in her grasp and humans often cannot see a solution to this conundrum. Like children we may want to flee the safety of the nest, but only as long as it remains a safe haven that we can return to. Others caught in the divine play are willing to provide this nest, but they want a relationship with the person who is there. This cannot happen as those involved in this play of life fantasize it will.
Searching outside rather than within ultimately leads to abandonment of self. When we seek others to care for and complete us, or if we try to rescue others from themselves we are setting ourselves up for failure. I cannot fill the emptiness in another person, and they cannot fill that in me. These are things we must learn to do for ourselves.
When we feel a gnawing emptiness arise in ourselves is the time to become still and evaluate that emptiness; what is it, where is it coming from, and why is it manifesting now? Become still in ourselves and examine what this emptiness is about.
Culture teaches us the opposite; avoid this emptiness at all costs; fill up with addictions of people, things, activities, anything to keep the illusion we feed ourselves alive. People run around filling their lives with junk to avoid this fear of being empty, of not being enough, of being a failure. These are powerful fears which enslaves those who believe that they are truth.
"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself, and if we give up fear we will never have to give up another thing" are quotes that speak truth. Trying to fill unmet needs with outside relationships leads to disappointment. Nothing outside of self can fill these gnawing needs. They must be filled from within.
Realizing that we can stand in the center of our emptiness and we won't be annihilated is a powerful and freeing realization. The Leela in life plays with us so that we might learn that it is only in and from that center of emptiness we begin to truly fill ourselves. Our illusions are played with in such ways that we are allowed to examine them and their truths are revealed to us.
We may attach to objects, relationships, activities, and all manor of things, but through the Leela, the divine play, our attachments become clear and we can begin to let go. Through letting go we understand the energy it takes to hang on. As we realize this there is a sense of freedom by not being encumbered by what we have been hanging on to.
At first as we step beyond the encultureated view of emptiness there can be a breathless moment as we absorb this emptiness as being a natural part of ourselves.
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